First of all it important to understand that people, and this goes especially for men, need certain things from a their relationships. Because non of us are identical these needs are seldom exactly the same for everybody. Although each person is different and need different things, they tend to take them into all of their separate and subsequent relationships. So, when other, less insightful, sites, warn generally about looking for ‘a change of habits’ or ‘acting differently’, as a warning sign, what they really mean is that one or more of these, I will call them ‘identifiers’, have changed or have stopped within your relationship.
The art of spotting if your partner is cheating is to know what the ‘identifiers’ within your relationship are in the first place, when everything is going well and then seeing if they stay consistent and noticing when and if they change.The most obvious example is sex, if you boyfriend likes/needs sex three times a week and that suddenly changes, and there is no underlying medical reason, there could well be something wrong with your relationship. If your boyfriend is in the habit of asking your advice on clothing, career changes or shoes and suddenly stops, it would be another sign. All men are different but the likelihood is that if they are no longer getting these needs met by you, then they are getting them met by somebody else they are in a relationship with and it is this other person who is providing the sex, grooming advice (or whatever it is), that he would normally be getting from you. Take a step back and look at what your boyfriend has always relied on you to provide and see if these needs have stopped, changed or lessened. It needn’t be something big, it can be something small, the important thing is that he would normally need or expect it from you and that need has now stopped or reduced, here are some examples;
1. Sex Drive is a big sign either way!
2. Increase in his general input on relationship issues in your circle of friends or family
3. Working out more and spending more time on his physical appearance
4. Buying new clothes or toiletries
5. Becoming more ambitious, looking at career changes or house moves.
6. Telling you funny stories.
7. Spending more private time online or on a mobile device.
8. Away more on business and later home from the office.
9. Confiding more in work problems.
10. Rushing to the shower whenever he returns home.
N.B It should be noted that identifiers do change slightly over time, age and illness are also factors.
Here are some more day to day things you might notice;
If he is emotionally involved with somebody else (as opposed to just having sex) also watch out for the following;
Just some general points.
Firstly you may observe some of these signs if your husband or partner has just simply fallen out of love with you and does not want to be with you any more, let’s face it, these thing happen, relationships do just break down, there might not be another person involved at all. Also, consider this, if the affair comes to light, however much you love your partner, if they are in love with somebody else and they want to be with them and not you, just how far would you want to go and what would you do to keep them? If you stay together will they spend the rest of your time together resenting you? will you go through the rest of your relationship knowing they would really rather be with somebody else, maybe they would even keep in contact with each other behind your back. However much you might try to change to make your partner happy, put the affair behind you and swallow your pride, your self- esteem will have been effected, it will have taken a hit. Might it be better to let them go and to find somebody else, somebody who wants to be with you more than anybody else in the world. As they say ‘The heart wants, what the heart wants’.
Everybody and all relationships are different, that’s what makes them fascinating to those of us who watch and investigate.
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